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Anaconda, Betty White, and Chris Evans: bundibird: wrangletangle: stevenrogered: Chris Evans helps Regina King up the stairs to the stage after her Oscars win Okay listen up, all you dudes out there! It’s time for some life lessons from Chris Evans. Wonder why women are fine with this when he does it, but they find you opening a car door or offering to carry stuff for them annoying? Well, wonder no more! It works like this: A large number of women have had to learn how to dodge and swerve and sometimes even slap away men’s hands from the time they hit puberty - and sometimes before. Ladies, cis and trans both, are unfortunately experienced at being groped, poked, prodded, “helped”, and otherwise humiliated and threatened by men. Then also there’s the condescending attitude that of course we need a man’s help, and we should be grateful he offered it. No thanks. Chris is doing something very different here, and you’ll see it in similar video clips of him at other events. You can read his mental process in his body language. He starts with just clapping and congratulating. He offers nothing until there is a need, which doesn’t happen here until Regina’s shoe gets caught on her dress. Since women have literally tripped up the stairs at this ceremony several times over the years (because the shoe and clothing requirements are ridiculous), it is reasonable at this stage to think that my-shoe-caught-on-my-dress is a problem that actually needs to be addressed. This is when Chris offers. How he offers matters. He starts with an open hand toward her, but this is a big no-no. Open hands are a red flag. Open hands grope and grab and shove. He quickly corrects by flipping his arm over and offering his forearm instead. This makes it her choice whether to grab on or ignore him. She doesn’t have to contend with a potentially threatening hand while she’s also contending with her dress. He also bends down a bit to do this. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but Chris is kind of a tall, beefy guy. Guys like that can be a bit intimidating without meaning to be, at least when they’re up close. Also, his arm is a bit too high to be useful to her if he stays at his full height. So he bends down. This is even more visible in the video from him doing this for Betty White at the 2015 Oscars, because she’s shorter than Regina, I guess. He offers his arm for exactly as long as she leans on it. When she lets go, he steps back. This is a guy who isn’t interested in showing off how much she needs his help. He’s just interested in helping, and when he’s not needed, he’s done. He goes back to sit down. He doesn’t hover. Also, Regina King knows who Chris Evans is. His behavior at work thus far has certainly made it into the rumor mill, thus factoring into whether she accepts help from him. Is he a dudebro or jerk to women at work? That doesn’t appear to be the case. Women are not helpless. Compared to men, our clothes are more often obstacles to getting where we need to go safely and with our dignity intact, but conversely, we’ve also learned to deal with that better than most men have. It’s not that we never need or want help; like all people, we do sometimes need a hand. It’s just that “some kinds of help are the kinds of help we all could do without.” If you are offering help to a woman, first make sure she actually appears to be struggling. Second, make yourself as unthreatening as possible and let her do any touching, not the other way around. Third, make sure she can refuse without any consequences. And fourth, back off as soon as she doesn’t need you anymore and let the moment go. I hadn’t even registered why exactly it was that he was so unthreatening in this and the Betty White assistance incidents, but you’re right. It’s all in the way he helps. It’s not that this is unthreatening behaviour “because he’s Chris Evans” – its because his body language is genuinely unthreatening and merely helpful. A+ analysis – I hadn’t even registered the details of why and how this behaviour was 100% ok, while from another man (who probably would have gone about it differentky) it might not have been
Anaconda, Betty White, and Chris Evans: bundibird:

wrangletangle:

stevenrogered:
Chris Evans helps Regina King up the stairs to the stage after her Oscars win
Okay listen up, all you dudes out there! It’s time for some life lessons from Chris Evans.
Wonder why women are fine with this when he does it, but they find you opening a car door or offering to carry stuff for them annoying? Well, wonder no more! It works like this:
A large number of women have had to learn how to dodge and swerve and sometimes even slap away men’s hands from the time they hit puberty - and sometimes before. Ladies, cis and trans both, are unfortunately experienced at being groped, poked, prodded, “helped”, and otherwise humiliated and threatened by men. Then also there’s the condescending attitude that of course we need a man’s help, and we should be grateful he offered it. 
No thanks.
Chris is doing something very different here, and you’ll see it in similar video clips of him at other events. You can read his mental process in his body language. He starts with just clapping and congratulating. He offers nothing until there is a need, which doesn’t happen here until Regina’s shoe gets caught on her dress. Since women have literally tripped up the stairs at this ceremony several times over the years (because the shoe and clothing requirements are ridiculous), it is reasonable at this stage to think that my-shoe-caught-on-my-dress is a problem that actually needs to be addressed. This is when Chris offers.
How he offers matters. He starts with an open hand toward her, but this is a big no-no. Open hands are a red flag. Open hands grope and grab and shove. He quickly corrects by flipping his arm over and offering his forearm instead. This makes it her choice whether to grab on or ignore him. She doesn’t have to contend with a potentially threatening hand while she’s also contending with her dress. 
He also bends down a bit to do this. I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but Chris is kind of a tall, beefy guy. Guys like that can be a bit intimidating without meaning to be, at least when they’re up close. Also, his arm is a bit too high to be useful to her if he stays at his full height. So he bends down. This is even more visible in the video from him doing this for Betty White at the 2015 Oscars, because she’s shorter than Regina, I guess.
He offers his arm for exactly as long as she leans on it. When she lets go, he steps back. This is a guy who isn’t interested in showing off how much she needs his help. He’s just interested in helping, and when he’s not needed, he’s done. He goes back to sit down. He doesn’t hover.
Also, Regina King knows who Chris Evans is. His behavior at work thus far has certainly made it into the rumor mill, thus factoring into whether she accepts help from him. Is he a dudebro or jerk to women at work? That doesn’t appear to be the case.
Women are not helpless. Compared to men, our clothes are more often obstacles to getting where we need to go safely and with our dignity intact, but conversely, we’ve also learned to deal with that better than most men have. It’s not that we never need or want help; like all people, we do sometimes need a hand. It’s just that “some kinds of help are the kinds of help we all could do without.”
If you are offering help to a woman, first make sure she actually appears to be struggling. Second, make yourself as unthreatening as possible and let her do any touching, not the other way around. Third, make sure she can refuse without any consequences. And fourth, back off as soon as she doesn’t need you anymore and let the moment go.


I hadn’t even registered why exactly it was that he was so unthreatening in this and the Betty White assistance incidents, but you’re right. It’s all in the way he helps. It’s not that this is unthreatening behaviour “because he’s Chris Evans” – its because his body language is genuinely unthreatening and merely helpful. 
A+ analysis – I hadn’t even registered the details of why and how this behaviour was 100% ok, while from another man (who probably would have gone about it differentky) it might not have been

bundibird: wrangletangle: stevenrogered: Chris Evans helps Regina King up the stairs to the stage after her Oscars win Okay listen up, all...

Alive, America, and Asian: did you know? Photographer Diana Kim, whose father abandoned her when she was 5, wanted to document the lives of the homeless. Searching for subjects on the streets, she came upon a thin and distant man in rags who looked somewhat familiar. It was her father. By fate or by chance, she'd found him after 25 years. PHOTO: DIANA KIM DIDYOUKNOWBLOG.COM did-you-kno: He had schizophrenia. He didn’t recognize her. She did everything she could to connect with him, but he refused treatment, medication, food, or new clothing. Eventually, he said to her: “Diana, I am so sorry for not being in your life. I am so happy that you have a family of your own now. Do better for them… … Don’t worry about me or what everyone says about me. If you want to make me proud and happy, be there for your family the way your mom and I never were. Stop trying to save everyone…just worry about yourself and your family. And don’t forget why I named you Diana, you are the light within the darkness.” So she refused to give up. After suffering a heart attack, he agreed to get help and slowly took control of his own life. One day he suddenly called her to invite her out for coffee. Later that afternoon, she wrote on her blog: “I feel like I just met my father for the first time today.” “I struggled to reconcile my feelings toward my father’s absence in my life, while continuing to care deeply for him and other homeless individuals.” “Over time, I learned to navigate through my feelings of desperation and became more vocal in my community about my father’s condition and what it’s like to watch a loved one battle mental illness.” He is now doing very well, and they are rebuilding their relationship from the ground up. “So long as we are alive in this world, every day is an opportunity to take hold of that ‘second chance.’ There is no failure unless you give up, and he never gave up. And I haven’t given up on him.” Source
Alive, America, and Asian: did you know?
 Photographer Diana Kim, whose
 father abandoned her when she
 was 5, wanted to document the
 lives of the homeless. Searching
 for subjects on the streets, she
 came upon a thin and distant man
 in rags who looked somewhat familiar.
 It was her father. By fate or by chance,
 she'd found him after 25 years.
 PHOTO: DIANA KIM
 DIDYOUKNOWBLOG.COM
did-you-kno:



He had schizophrenia. He didn’t recognize her. She did everything she could to connect with him, but he refused treatment, medication, food, or new clothing.


Eventually, he said to her: “Diana, I am so sorry for not being in your life. I am so happy that you have a family of your own now. Do better for them…
… Don’t worry about me or what everyone says about me. If you want to make me proud and happy, be there for your family the way your mom and I never were. Stop trying to save everyone…just worry about yourself and your family. And don’t forget why I named you Diana, you are the light within the darkness.” So she refused to give up.
After suffering a heart attack, he agreed to get help and slowly took control of his own life.
One day he suddenly called her to invite her out for coffee. Later that afternoon, she wrote on her blog: “I feel like I just met my father for the first time today.”
“I struggled to reconcile my feelings toward my father’s absence in my life, while continuing to care deeply for him and other homeless individuals.”
“Over time, I learned to navigate through my feelings of desperation and became more vocal in my community about my father’s condition and what it’s like to watch a loved one battle mental illness.”
He is now doing very well, and they are rebuilding their relationship from the ground up. “So long as we are alive in this world, every day is an opportunity to take hold of that ‘second chance.’ There is no failure unless you give up, and he never gave up. And I haven’t given up on him.”
Source

did-you-kno: He had schizophrenia. He didn’t recognize her. She did everything she could to connect with him, but he refused treatment, m...

Beautiful, Bless Up, and Dogs: Meet Tucker! You might think he's having a seizure, but he's actually a perfectly happy and healthy boy, he just struggles with a REM sleep disorder. He's runnin to steal yo girl in his dreamse Beloveds! These videos go viral without context sometimes - I used to be the biggest culprit because I would grab videos from anywhere on the Internet and post them without explaining the background 😕. In this case, this video of this beautiful little golden received a lot of attention and a lot of negative comments toward his mama. His mama is doing a great job with him! She’s a sweet woman. And he’s a very happy boy. We need to make sure to celebrate and not tear down humans who are being so kind to dogs that have imperfections or as I call them, perfections. (Good boys and girls like this simply used to be put down 😥 so it’s pretty awesome that humans take them in now and love them and afford them care and dignity!) Like the Mama of the pup I posted last night ❤️. Go ahead and swipe through and see some neat videos, pics and information on this good boy. And if u see a good boy or girl at the shelter with some perfections, sign them papers! Bring em home! (If you have time and resources ❤️). Your reward is with God 😍 and I ask God fo make us all more compassionate and loving! Bless up! 😍❤️❤️ (@tucker_me_out)
Beautiful, Bless Up, and Dogs: Meet Tucker! You might think he's having
 a seizure, but he's actually a perfectly
 happy and healthy boy, he just struggles
 with a REM sleep disorder. He's runnin
 to steal yo girl in his dreamse
Beloveds! These videos go viral without context sometimes - I used to be the biggest culprit because I would grab videos from anywhere on the Internet and post them without explaining the background 😕. In this case, this video of this beautiful little golden received a lot of attention and a lot of negative comments toward his mama. His mama is doing a great job with him! She’s a sweet woman. And he’s a very happy boy. We need to make sure to celebrate and not tear down humans who are being so kind to dogs that have imperfections or as I call them, perfections. (Good boys and girls like this simply used to be put down 😥 so it’s pretty awesome that humans take them in now and love them and afford them care and dignity!) Like the Mama of the pup I posted last night ❤️. Go ahead and swipe through and see some neat videos, pics and information on this good boy. And if u see a good boy or girl at the shelter with some perfections, sign them papers! Bring em home! (If you have time and resources ❤️). Your reward is with God 😍 and I ask God fo make us all more compassionate and loving! Bless up! 😍❤️❤️ (@tucker_me_out)

Beloveds! These videos go viral without context sometimes - I used to be the biggest culprit because I would grab videos from anywhere on th...

Target, Tumblr, and Blog: cygames: catgifcentral: Hmc while i watch this ball coming toward me
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Ass, Candy, and Cars: Slate.com 5 hrs . Slate Dear Prudie: Do I have to give them candy? aT T-T Help! Kids From Poorer Neighborhoods Keep Trick- or-Treating in Mine. Slate.com Dear Prudence, I live in one of the wealthiest neighborhoods in the country, but on one of the more "modest" streets-mostly doctors and lawyers and family business owners. (A few blocks away are billionaires, families with famous last names, media moguls, etc.) I have noticed that on Halloween, what seems like 75 percent of the trick-or-treaters are clearly not from this neighborhood. Kids arrive in overflowing cars from less fortunate areas. I feel this is inappropriate. Halloween isn't a social service or a charity in which l have to buy candy for less fortunate children Obviously this makes me feel like a terrible person, because what's the big deal about making less fortunate kids happy on a holiday? But it just bugs me, because we already pay more than enough taxes toward actual social services. Should Halloween be a neighborhood activity, or is it legitimately a free-for-all in which people hunt down the best candy grounds for their kids? 91.6K 705 Slate Slate.com's Post See More crissle: defending-lesbians: teaboot: ryulongd: rune-midgarts: goodtimegang: brakehagev2: guys this is actually real like a real person wrote this “more than enough” oh you fucking saints, absolutely pouring wealth onto the unfortunates lol this is amazing Dear Prudie, I think I just witnessed a murder You fucking monster Prudie ain’t playin It’s not really about the candy. She doesn’t want to see their poor colored asses in her rich ass neighborhood.
Ass, Candy, and Cars: Slate.com
 5 hrs .
 Slate
 Dear Prudie: Do I have to give them candy?
 aT
 T-T
 Help! Kids From Poorer Neighborhoods Keep Trick-
 or-Treating in Mine.
 Slate.com

 Dear Prudence,
 I live in one of the wealthiest neighborhoods
 in the country, but on one of the more
 "modest" streets-mostly doctors and
 lawyers and family business owners. (A few
 blocks away are billionaires, families with
 famous last names, media moguls, etc.) I
 have noticed that on Halloween, what seems
 like 75 percent of the trick-or-treaters are
 clearly not from this neighborhood. Kids
 arrive in overflowing cars from less fortunate
 areas. I feel this is inappropriate. Halloween
 isn't a social service or a charity in which l
 have to buy candy for less fortunate children
 Obviously this makes me feel like a terrible
 person, because what's the big deal about
 making less fortunate kids happy on a
 holiday? But it just bugs me, because we
 already pay more than enough taxes toward
 actual social services. Should Halloween be a
 neighborhood activity, or is it legitimately a
 free-for-all in which people hunt down the
 best candy grounds for their kids?
 91.6K 705
 Slate
 Slate.com's Post
 See More
crissle:

defending-lesbians:

teaboot:

ryulongd:

rune-midgarts:

goodtimegang:

brakehagev2:

guys this is actually real like a real person wrote this

“more than enough” oh you fucking saints, absolutely pouring wealth onto the unfortunates


lol this is amazing 

Dear Prudie,
I think I just witnessed a murder

You fucking monster

Prudie ain’t playin

It’s not really about the candy. She doesn’t want to see their poor colored asses in her rich ass neighborhood.

crissle: defending-lesbians: teaboot: ryulongd: rune-midgarts: goodtimegang: brakehagev2: guys this is actually real like a real pers...

Community, Fail, and Friends: Mate Beliefs More functional beliefs t do as well as others, 'm not a failure, If I don't do as well as others, I'm a failure. 213 If I d just human. If I ask for help when I need it, I'm sh roblem-solving abilities (which is strength). 2 If I ask for help, it's a sign of weakness. (h sh is a sign of ing good fail at work/school, it's not a reflection of le self. (My whole self includes how at work/school, If I work/sch y whole am as a da and community member, and my qual kindness, sensitivity to others, helpfulne Also, failure is not a permanent condition. I'm a failure as a person 3. If I fail work/school friend, daughter, sister, relative, citizen, ities of ure I shouldn't be able to excel at something unlessl am gifted in that area (and am willing and able to devote considerable time and effort toward it at the expense of other things). 4. Ishould be able to excel at everything I try et I should put in a rea sonable amount of effort hould always work hard and do my best. much of the time. If I do less than my best, I have succeeded perhaps 70%, 80% or 90%; not 0%. 6. I s 6. If I don't live up to rmy potential, I have failed. I don't work hard all the time, ll probably do reasonably well and have a more balanced life. If I don't work h If I don't work hard all the time, I'll fail 7. FIGURE 13.5, Fr kosmonauttihai: rollerskatinglizard: ceekari: stayhungry-stayfree: This is a really helpful page in my CBT textbook for tackling some of the maladaptive beliefs we often hold. The first column lists the rules and assumptions we often may tell ourselves, while the second column is a more functional belief. Just thought I would pass this along. Be kind to yourselves, friends❤ Oh my god, number 5. And 6, and 7. I frigging needed that. Failure is not a permanent condition. The text on the image: Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t do as well as others, I’m a failure.More functional belief: If I don’t do as well as others, I’m not a failure, just human. Maladaptive belief:  If I ask for help, it’s a sign of weakness.More functional belief: If I ask for help when I need it, I’m showing good problem-solving abilities (which is a sign of strength). Maladaptive belief:  If I fail at work/school, I’m a failure as a person.More functional belief: If I fail at work/school, it’s not a reflection of my whole self. (My whole self includes how I am as a friend, daughter, sister, relative, citizen, and community member, and my qualities of kindness, sensitivity to others, helpfulness, etc.) Also, failure is not a permanent condition. Maladaptive belief:  I should be able to excel at everything I try.More functional belief: I shouldn’t be able to excel at something unless I am gifted in that area (and am willing and able to devote considerable time and effort toward it at the expense of other things. Maladaptive belief:  I should always work hard and do my best.More functional belief: I should put in a reasonable amount of effort much of the time. Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t live up to my potential, I have failed.More functional belief: If I do less than my best, I have succeeded perhaps 70%, 80%, or 90%; not 0%. Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll fail.More functional belief: If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll probably do reasonably well and have a more balanced life.
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kosmonauttihai:
rollerskatinglizard:

ceekari:

stayhungry-stayfree:
This is a really helpful page in my CBT textbook for tackling some of the maladaptive beliefs we often hold. The first column lists the rules and assumptions we often may tell ourselves, while the second column is a more functional belief. Just thought I would pass this along. Be kind to yourselves, friends❤

Oh my god, number 5. And 6, and 7.
I frigging needed that.

Failure is not a permanent condition. 

The text on the image:
Maladaptive belief: 

If I don’t do as well as others, I’m a failure.More functional belief: 

If I don’t do as well as others, I’m not a failure, just human.


Maladaptive belief:  If I ask for help, it’s a sign of weakness.More functional belief: If I ask for help when I need it, I’m showing good problem-solving abilities (which is a sign of strength).
Maladaptive belief:  If I fail at work/school, I’m a failure as a person.More functional belief: 

If I fail at work/school, it’s not a reflection of my whole self. (My whole self includes how I am as a friend, daughter, sister, relative, citizen, and community member, and my qualities of kindness, sensitivity to others, helpfulness, etc.) Also, failure is not a permanent condition.
Maladaptive belief:  I should be able to excel at everything I try.More functional belief: I shouldn’t be able to excel at something unless I am gifted in that area (and am willing and able to devote considerable time and effort toward it at the expense of other things.
Maladaptive belief:  I should always work hard and do my best.More functional belief: I should put in a reasonable amount of effort much of the time.
Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t live up to my potential, I have failed.More functional belief: If I do less than my best, I have succeeded perhaps 70%, 80%, or 90%; not 0%.
Maladaptive belief:  If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll fail.More functional belief: 

If I don’t work hard all the time, I’ll probably do reasonably well and have a more balanced life.

kosmonauttihai: rollerskatinglizard: ceekari: stayhungry-stayfree: This is a really helpful page in my CBT textbook for tackling some of t...

Animals, New York, and School: Erica Byfield @EricaByfield4NY -Follow An autistic man say his coworkers in a NYC City Council Office tormented him. Slashing his prized stuffed animals to mock him @NBCNewYork 09 28 ANM oo AT&T LTE 11:47 ANM scontent-lga3-1.xx.fbcdn.net C Magnificent @R1R2L1X Follow @EricaByfield4NY @NBCNewYork it's actually way worse than this tweet suggests NO SM Brooklyn Councilman Vincent Gentile has been named in a $10.. View Full Caption BROOKLYN - A city councilman and his staff bullied an aide with autism with pranks such as littering his desk with decapitated stuffed animals and locking him in a basement, a $10 million lawsuit claims. DNAinfo/Nicholas Rizzi babydreamgirl: aaliyah-appollonia: anxious-strawberry: don-teriestiel: teenage-mutant-angsty-zukos: runningfromomelas: transfaabulous: so-many-miles-to-go: bitterbitchclubpresident: bellygangstaboo: Bistreich’s suit alleges that both Gentile — a Democrat who represents Bath Beach, Bay Ridge, Bensonhurst and Dyker Heights — and his chief of staff John Mancuso targeted him because of his diagnosis and tormented him with pranks so distressing he was forced to quit his job in June 2016. Mancuso once organized a mass-decapitation of the stuffed animals Bistreich kept on his desk. Bistreich found his Teddy bears with their heads ripped off — with one mounted on a flagpole — and a stuffed toy dog had been gutted and painted red to seem bloody. The suit also claims the bullying was tolerated and encouraged by Gentile, who laughed and clapped his hands when a staff member compared Bistreich to Avonte Oquendo — the autistic boy who died after escaping his school through an unattended exit — by suggesting Bistreich “test the doors.” This is so gross! These are grown adults bullying someone like they are on an elementary school playground. I have to continue believing that for every one asshole there are at least two caring people.. Gentile told Bistreich his “ticking” had gotten worse. He said, “We know your condition, but when you twitch like that it’s unnerving to people” and asked “Can you look into upping your medication?” the lawsuit claims.(x) that is so disgusting, and highly illegal. I hope Bistreich wins the lawsuit. Did someone fix the stuffed animals for him? Does he still have them? If not, and he still has the parts, is there a way I could offer to do it?  I’m a seamstress and have done stuffed toy repair before.  He probably doesn’t have them right now, since they’re likely being used as evidence, but I’m confident he’ll get them back at some point, whereupon we can help repair them. For now, though, can we send stuffed animals his way? What kind does he prefer? Mr. Bistreich is hyperempathetic and identifies with his stuffed animals. This is important. He feels real empathy for these stuffed animals and sees himself in them. His coworkers knew this. It was soon after Mr. Bistreich disclosed his hyperempathy toward his stuffed animals that this ‘prank’ (read: abuse) occurred. It was a calculated attack intended to intimidate and traumatize. This is so sickening for me to read. I have an autistic brother who is also hyperempathic , and he’s also got a large collection of stuffed animals. He cries whenever one gets too worn to keep. Just…. Why would you do this? How could you be so cruel? This made me cry in public. We do not deserved to be treated like this. Can someone start a donation of stuffed animals for him please?? Like those people were so horrible and he deserves the world. Sigh even I first read this I cried and now again I like never ever cry but I just did and this made me grab my bear so tight I want these demons fired sued and exiled
Animals, New York, and School: Erica Byfield
 @EricaByfield4NY
 -Follow
 An autistic man say his coworkers in a NYC
 City Council Office tormented him. Slashing his
 prized stuffed animals to mock him
 @NBCNewYork

 09 28 ANM

 oo AT&T LTE
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 scontent-lga3-1.xx.fbcdn.net C

 Magnificent
 @R1R2L1X
 Follow
 @EricaByfield4NY @NBCNewYork it's actually
 way worse than this tweet suggests
 NO SM
 Brooklyn Councilman Vincent Gentile has been named in a $10..
 View Full Caption
 BROOKLYN - A city councilman and his staff
 bullied an aide with autism with pranks such as
 littering his desk with decapitated stuffed
 animals and locking him in a basement, a $10
 million lawsuit claims.
 DNAinfo/Nicholas Rizzi
babydreamgirl:
aaliyah-appollonia:


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don-teriestiel:

teenage-mutant-angsty-zukos:

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transfaabulous:

so-many-miles-to-go:

bitterbitchclubpresident:

bellygangstaboo:

Bistreich’s suit alleges that both Gentile — a Democrat who represents Bath Beach, Bay Ridge, Bensonhurst and Dyker Heights — and his chief of staff John Mancuso targeted him because of his diagnosis and tormented him with pranks so distressing he was forced to quit his job in June 2016.
Mancuso once organized a mass-decapitation of the stuffed animals Bistreich kept on his desk.
Bistreich found his Teddy bears with their heads ripped off — with one mounted on a flagpole — and a stuffed toy dog had been gutted and painted red to seem bloody.


The suit also claims the bullying was tolerated and encouraged by Gentile, who laughed and clapped his hands when a staff member compared Bistreich to Avonte Oquendo — the autistic boy who died after escaping his school through an unattended exit — by suggesting Bistreich “test the doors.”




This is so gross!


These are grown adults bullying someone like they are on an elementary school playground.


I have to continue believing that for every one asshole there are at least two caring people..

Gentile told Bistreich his “ticking” had gotten worse. He said, “We know your condition, but when you twitch like that it’s unnerving to people” and asked “Can you look into upping your medication?” the lawsuit claims.(x)
that is so disgusting, and highly illegal. I hope Bistreich wins the lawsuit.

Did someone fix the stuffed animals for him? Does he still have them?
If not, and he still has the parts, is there a way I could offer to do it?  I’m a seamstress and have done stuffed toy repair before. 

He probably doesn’t have them right now, since they’re likely being used as evidence, but I’m confident he’ll get them back at some point, whereupon we can help repair them.
For now, though, can we send stuffed animals his way? What kind does he prefer?

Mr. Bistreich is hyperempathetic and identifies with his stuffed animals. 
This is important. He feels real empathy for these stuffed animals and sees himself in them. 
His coworkers knew this. It was soon after Mr. Bistreich disclosed his hyperempathy toward his stuffed animals that this ‘prank’ (read: abuse) occurred. 
It was a calculated attack intended to intimidate and traumatize.


This is so sickening for me to read. I have an autistic brother who is also hyperempathic , and he’s also got a large collection of stuffed animals. He cries whenever one gets too worn to keep. 
Just…. Why would you do this? How could you be so cruel?


This made me cry in public. We do not deserved to be treated like this.


Can someone start a donation of stuffed animals for him please?? Like those people were so horrible and he deserves the world.


Sigh even I first read this I cried and now again


I like never ever cry but I just did and this made me grab my bear so tight I want these demons fired sued and exiled

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Bodies , Children, and Climbing: Drowning in real life looks nothing like in the
 movies, and in fact many parents actually
 watch their children drown, having no idea
 that it's happening
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ultrafacts:

According to the CDC, in 10 percent of those drownings, the adult will actually watch the child do it, having no idea it is happening. Drowning does not look like drowning—Dr. Pia, in an article in the Coast Guard’s On Scene magazine, described the Instinctive Drowning Response like this:
“Except in rare circumstances, drowning people are physiologically unable to call out for help. The respiratory system was designed for breathing. Speech is the secondary or overlaid function. Breathing must be fulfilled before speech occurs.
Drowning people’s mouths alternately sink below and reappear above the surface of the water. The mouths of drowning people are not above the surface of the water long enough for them to exhale, inhale, and call out for help. When the drowning people’s mouths are above the surface, they exhale and inhale quickly as their mouths start to sink below the surface of the water.
Drowning people cannot wave for help. Nature instinctively forces them to extend their arms laterally and press down on the water’s surface. Pressing down on the surface of the water permits drowning people to leverage their bodies so they can lift their mouths out of the water to breathe.
Throughout the Instinctive Drowning Response, drowning people cannot voluntarily control their arm movements. Physiologically, drowning people who are struggling on the surface of the water cannot stop drowning and perform voluntary movements such as waving for help, moving toward a rescuer, or reaching out for a piece of rescue equipment.
From beginning to end of the Instinctive Drowning Response people’s bodies remain upright in the water, with no evidence of a supporting kick. Unless rescued by a trained lifeguard, these drowning people can only struggle on the surface of the water from 20 to 60 seconds before submersion occurs.”
This doesn’t mean that a person that is yelling for help and thrashing isn’t in real trouble—they are experiencing aquatic distress. Not always present before the Instinctive Drowning Response, aquatic distress doesn’t last long—but unlike true drowning, these victims can still assist in their own rescue. They can grab lifelines, throw rings, etc.
Look for these other signs of drowning when persons are in the water:
Head low in the water, mouth at water level
Head tilted back with mouth open
Eyes glassy and empty, unable to focus
Eyes closed
Hair over forehead or eyes
Not using legs—vertical
Hyperventilating or gasping
Trying to swim in a particular direction but not making headway
Trying to roll over on the back
Appear to be climbing an invisible ladder
So if a crew member falls overboard and everything looks OK—don’t be too sure. Sometimes the most common indication that someone is drowning is that they don’t look like they’re drowning. They may just look like they are treading water and looking up at the deck. One way to be sure? Ask them, “Are you all right?” If they can answer at all—they probably are. If they return a blank stare, you may have less than 30 seconds to get to them. And parents—children playing in the water make noise. When they get quiet, you get to them and find out why.
Source/article: [x] 
Follow Ultrafacts for more facts!


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Bitch, Dank, and Fucking: antioch musicalhll systlin totohoy systlin thesylvedlining the-macra why are there so many posts about asexuals being immune to sirens. people sirens don't lure you in with sex (necessarily) they sing about whatever it is that you want most they could sing about mothman or cinnamon toast crunch and guess what your asexual pirate is fucking dead this is the only kind of ace discourse i ever want to see on my dash. the only kind. ever again. good job Do you think the sirens would be grateful that they finally get some variety? "Oh my god we can finally just sing about pasta thank the fucking gods." I'm not asexual but I'm fairly certain sirens would do a far better job luring me into the depths with a song about pasta rather than sex... mean "WHAT THE FUCK STAY AWAY FROM THE ROCKS. FUCKER THEY SAID THEY HAVE FETTUCCINE CARBONARA AND HOT GARLIC BREAD OVER THERE HANG ON BITCH This is true, Odysseus heard them promising him knowledge of the future. So the next time you see artwork like this Remember those sultry naked chicks are saying We'll tell you the winning lotto Them: "We have unlimited wifi at incredible speeds" Me: "diving headfirst into the water I love this post Them: hey man if you jump into the water you'll fucking drown Me: im all in baby "Away with you!" lexclaimed, swinging an oar toward the unyielding siren Oh, but we have anything you could ever want," she cooed.I shook my head. "I want for nothing! There is nothing you could offer me!" The siren paused for a moment. Dank Memes," she said, "The Dankest Memes you co-" Her sentence was cut short by my epic cannonball into the water. joebobtheasian Source :the-macra #meirl #me_irl 256,246 notes Mar 22nd, 2017 A Siren Song for Anyone
Bitch, Dank, and Fucking: antioch
 musicalhll
 systlin
 totohoy
 systlin
 thesylvedlining
 the-macra
 why are there so many posts about asexuals being immune to
 sirens. people sirens don't lure you in with sex (necessarily)
 they sing about whatever it is that you want most they could
 sing about mothman or cinnamon toast crunch and guess what
 your asexual pirate is fucking dead
 this is the only kind of ace discourse i ever want to see on my
 dash. the only kind. ever again. good job
 Do you think the sirens would be grateful that they finally get some
 variety?
 "Oh my god we can finally just sing about pasta thank the fucking gods."
 I'm not asexual but I'm fairly certain sirens would do a far better job luring me
 into the depths with a song about pasta rather than sex...
 mean
 "WHAT THE FUCK STAY AWAY FROM THE ROCKS.
 FUCKER THEY SAID THEY HAVE FETTUCCINE CARBONARA AND HOT
 GARLIC BREAD OVER THERE HANG ON BITCH
 This is true, Odysseus heard them promising him knowledge of the future. So the
 next time you see artwork like this
 Remember those sultry naked chicks are saying We'll tell you the winning lotto
 Them: "We have unlimited wifi at incredible speeds"
 Me: "diving headfirst into the water
 I love this post
 Them: hey man if you jump into the water you'll fucking drown
 Me: im all in baby
 "Away with you!" lexclaimed, swinging an oar toward the unyielding siren
 Oh, but we have anything you could ever want," she cooed.I shook my head.
 "I want for nothing! There is nothing you could offer me!" The siren paused for a moment.
 Dank Memes," she said, "The Dankest Memes you co-" Her sentence was cut short by my epic cannonball
 into the water.
 joebobtheasian Source :the-macra #meirl #me_irl
 256,246 notes
 Mar 22nd, 2017
A Siren Song for Anyone

A Siren Song for Anyone