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Brains, Girls, and Lazy: icecream-eaterrr I just heard this woman say "you procrastinate because you are afraid of rejection. It's a defense mechanism, you are trying to protect yourself without even trying." and I think I just realized what was wrong with me eupheme-butterfly Yep, this is a very, very common reason for procrastinating. It's also why procrastination, even though it's often associated with laziness, is a fairly common trait in a lot of people with anxiety and perfectionism issues dsudis This idea You're not lazy, you're protecting yourself- hit me really hard while reading, of all things, Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, which turns out to be as much about how brains work and how relationships work as how orgasms work. In an early part of the book she talks about Fight/Flight/Freeze responses to threats-the example she uses is being attacked by a lion You fight, if you think you can defeat the lion; you run away, if you think you can escape the lion; and when you think there's nothing you can do, when you feel the lion's jaws closing on your neck, you freeze, because dying will hurt less that way. You just stop and go numb and wait for it to be over, because that is the last way to protect any scrap of yourself Later in the book, she talks about the brain process that motivates you to pursue incentives, describing it as a little monitor that gauges your progress toward a goal versus the effort you're expending. If it feels like too little progress is being made you get frustrated, get angry, and, eventually, you.. despair. You stop trying You go numb and wait for it to be over, because that's the only way left to protect yourself. So it occurred to me that these are basically the same thing-when facing a difficult task, where failure feels like a Threat, you can get frustrated and fight it out-INCREASE DOING THE THING until you get where you're going Or you can flee-try to solve the problem some other way than straight on, changing your goal, changing your approach, whatever. Fight or flight But both of those only apply when you think the problem is solvable, right? If the problem isn't solvable, then you freeze. You despair And if you're one of those Smart Kids (Smart Girls, especially) who was praised for being smart so that all tasks in the world came to be divided between Ooh This Is Easy and I DON'T KNOW IF I CAN DO THAT AND IF I FUCK UP I WILL DIE, then... it's pretty easy to see how you lose the frustration/anger stage of working toward a goal, because your brain goes straight to freeze/despair every time. Things are easy and routine or they are straight up impossible So, you know, any time you manage to pull yourself up and give that lion a smack on the nose, or go stumbling away from it instead of just falling down like a fainting goat as soon as you spot it on the horizon, give yourself a gold star from me. Because this is some deeply wired survival-brain stuff. Even if logically you know that that term paper is not a lion, it really is like that sometimes Source: icecream-eaterrr 517,124 notes Procrastination
Brains, Girls, and Lazy: icecream-eaterrr
 I just heard this woman say "you procrastinate
 because you are afraid of rejection. It's a
 defense mechanism, you are trying to protect
 yourself without even trying." and I think I just
 realized what was wrong with me
 eupheme-butterfly
 Yep, this is a very, very common reason for
 procrastinating. It's also why procrastination,
 even though it's often associated with
 laziness, is a fairly common trait in a lot of
 people with anxiety and perfectionism issues
 dsudis
 This idea You're not lazy, you're protecting
 yourself- hit me really hard while reading, of
 all things, Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are,
 which turns out to be as much about how
 brains work and how relationships work as
 how orgasms work.
 In an early part of the book she talks about
 Fight/Flight/Freeze responses to threats-the
 example she uses is being attacked by a lion
 You fight, if you think you can defeat the lion;
 you run away, if you think you can escape the
 lion; and when you think there's nothing you
 can do, when you feel the lion's jaws closing
 on your neck, you freeze, because dying will
 hurt less that way. You just stop and go numb
 and wait for it to be over, because that is the
 last way to protect any scrap of yourself
 Later in the book, she talks about the brain
 process that motivates you to pursue
 incentives, describing it as a little monitor
 that gauges your progress toward a goal
 versus the effort you're expending. If it feels
 like too little progress is being made you get
 frustrated, get angry, and, eventually, you..
 despair. You stop trying
 You go numb and wait for it to be over,
 because that's the only way left to protect
 yourself.
 So it occurred to me that these are basically
 the same thing-when facing a difficult task,
 where failure feels like a Threat, you can get
 frustrated and fight it out-INCREASE DOING
 THE THING until you get where you're going
 Or you can flee-try to solve the problem some
 other way than straight on, changing your
 goal, changing your approach, whatever. Fight
 or flight
 But both of those only apply when you think
 the problem is solvable, right? If the problem
 isn't solvable, then you freeze. You despair
 And if you're one of those Smart Kids (Smart
 Girls, especially) who was praised for being
 smart so that all tasks in the world came to
 be divided between Ooh This Is Easy and I
 DON'T KNOW IF I CAN DO THAT AND IF I
 FUCK UP I WILL DIE, then... it's pretty easy
 to see how you lose the frustration/anger
 stage of working toward a goal, because your
 brain goes straight to freeze/despair every
 time. Things are easy and routine or they are
 straight up impossible
 So, you know, any time you manage to pull
 yourself up and give that lion a smack on the
 nose, or go stumbling away from it instead of
 just falling down like a fainting goat as soon
 as you spot it on the horizon, give yourself
 a gold star from me. Because this is some
 deeply wired survival-brain stuff. Even if
 logically you know that that term paper is not
 a lion, it really is like that sometimes
 Source: icecream-eaterrr
 517,124 notes
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Procrastination

Gym, Shit, and Squad: HE CHARACTERS IN Suicide Squad do stunts that are physically unbelievable. But most of their powers are attainable; they just happen to be the very best at what they do. Part of Harley Quinn's background, for example, is that she's an expert gymnast. Rather than having a stunt double execute a move, Robbie trained for months to capture a gym nast's sense of flexibility and awareness. And it shows. Producer Richard Suckle says, "I remember the day in which we shot the scene where Harley is in the eleva tor in the Federal Building. And I remember looking at the monitor and thinking, Where are the wires? The wires have to be somewhere. They've done an amazing job. And after, like, the third take, I'm, like, where are the wires? And I had to walk up and look, and I realized, of course, there were no wires. She was actually doing that move. She was literally walking inside the elevator 360 degrees upside down, and she did it over and over and over again." Action Unit Director Guy Norris admits that the majority of the cast is naturally athletic. After one day of weapons or fight training, for example, Will Smith pondorasbox: lenomcakes: Can you believe margot robbie did this stunt on her own without any wires while wearing high heels we had to hear stories about fucked up shit jared leto was doing for a year for his 5 seconds of mediocrity while this woman was out here actually becoming a gymnast?????
Gym, Shit, and Squad: HE CHARACTERS IN Suicide Squad do stunts that
 are physically unbelievable. But most of their
 powers are attainable; they just happen to be
 the very best at what they do. Part of Harley Quinn's
 background, for example, is that she's an expert
 gymnast. Rather than having a stunt double execute
 a move, Robbie trained for months to capture a gym
 nast's sense of flexibility and awareness. And it shows.
 Producer Richard Suckle says, "I remember the day in
 which we shot the scene where Harley is in the eleva
 tor in the Federal Building. And I remember looking
 at the monitor and thinking, Where are the wires?
 The wires have to be somewhere. They've done an
 amazing job. And after, like, the third take, I'm, like,
 where are the wires? And I had to walk up and look,
 and I realized, of course, there were no wires. She was
 actually doing that move. She was literally walking
 inside the elevator 360 degrees upside down, and she
 did it over and over and over again."
 Action Unit Director Guy Norris admits that the
 majority of the cast is naturally athletic. After one day
 of weapons or fight training, for example, Will Smith
pondorasbox:
lenomcakes:

Can you believe margot robbie did this stunt on her own without any wires while wearing high heels

we had to hear stories about fucked up shit jared leto was doing for a year for his 5 seconds of mediocrity while this woman was out here actually becoming a gymnast?????

pondorasbox: lenomcakes: Can you believe margot robbie did this stunt on her own without any wires while wearing high heels we had to hear...

Club, Dogs, and Lgbt: Discord -111 2:25 PM Tweet Love, Noelle @lesbianhamlet 2/25/18 A website like @doesthedogdie but for LGBT characters. Does the gay die? 2 Does the Dog Die @doesthedog...。2d 、 What are some example movies where this happens? Love, Noelle @lesbianhamlet 2d Brokeback Mountain, Atomic Blonde, Bent, The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel, Braveheart, A Single Man, Cloud Atlas, Black Swan, Philadelphia, Rent, Dallas Buyers Club, The Normal Heart, Mulholland Drive, Milk, Holding the Man, Four Weddings and a Funeral, Another Country, Deathtrap Does the Dog Die @doesthedogdie Tweet your reply Discord -111 2:25 PM Tweet oes the Dog Die @doesthedogdie Replying to @lesbianhamlet "Does a LGBT person die?" is an option now on doesthedogdie.com. Thanks for the suggestion! /28/18, 2:17 PM Tweet your reply gingersnapwolves: jenniferrpovey: curface: omgkalyppso: pennie-dreadful: lukenull: I made a difference in the world! REBLOG TO SAVE YOUR QUEER HEART FROM BREAKING I’ve seen a bunch of people in the notes concerned (like I was) of comparisons of members of the lgbt to dogs: but upon visiting their website I was reassured that they monitor a variety of content, including (but not limited to): THIS IS A GOOD SITE Yeah, this site is literally so people can check for content they don’t want to see…or in some cases content that would make them physically or mentally ill. (I have strobe issues myself…) It’s highly useful for a lot of people. I had no idea they warned for strobe effects, that’s awesome! They give me headaches and nausea.
Club, Dogs, and Lgbt: Discord -111
 2:25 PM
 Tweet
 Love, Noelle @lesbianhamlet 2/25/18
 A website like @doesthedogdie but for
 LGBT characters. Does the gay die?
 2
 Does the Dog Die @doesthedog...。2d 、
 What are some example movies where
 this happens?
 Love, Noelle @lesbianhamlet 2d
 Brokeback Mountain, Atomic Blonde,
 Bent, The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel,
 Braveheart, A Single Man, Cloud Atlas,
 Black Swan, Philadelphia, Rent, Dallas
 Buyers Club, The Normal Heart,
 Mulholland Drive, Milk, Holding the
 Man, Four Weddings and a Funeral,
 Another Country, Deathtrap
 Does the Dog Die
 @doesthedogdie
 Tweet your reply

 Discord -111
 2:25 PM
 Tweet
 oes the Dog Die
 @doesthedogdie
 Replying to @lesbianhamlet
 "Does a LGBT person die?" is an
 option now on doesthedogdie.com.
 Thanks for the suggestion!
 /28/18, 2:17 PM
 Tweet your reply
gingersnapwolves:
jenniferrpovey:

curface:

omgkalyppso:

pennie-dreadful:

lukenull:
I made a difference in the world!

REBLOG TO SAVE YOUR QUEER HEART FROM BREAKING


I’ve seen a bunch of people in the notes concerned (like I was) of comparisons of members of the lgbt to dogs: but upon visiting their website I was reassured that they monitor a variety of content, including (but not limited to):




THIS IS A GOOD SITE

Yeah, this site is literally so people can check for content they don’t want to see…or in some cases content that would make them physically or mentally ill. (I have strobe issues myself…)
It’s highly useful for a lot of people.

I had no idea they warned for strobe effects, that’s awesome! They give me headaches and nausea.

gingersnapwolves: jenniferrpovey: curface: omgkalyppso: pennie-dreadful: lukenull: I made a difference in the world! REBLOG TO SAVE YOU...