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America, Bad, and Children: There is no such thing as an American dream n Europe we try to be civil and have empathy queeranarchism: queerautism: queeranarchism: love-geofffree: designatedheckingadult: queeranarchism: LOL NOPE Europe is racist as fuck. Europe has armed gaurds and high fences on its borders. Europe makes it illegal to rescue refugees at sea. Europe locks up refugee children. Europe has killer cops that shoot teenagers of color. Europe is full of fascist politicians nostalgically fantasizing about ethnic cleansing. Not a day goes by without attacks on Muslims. Fuck Europe. Can confirm. The problem with England (I can’t talk for the rest of Europe) is that our racism and our xenophobia and all our bigoted views manifest in a different way then America, and we use this to claim that it doesn’t exist, even when our country is built on it. We are taught that the British empire was a good thing, and pretty much no one here knows anything about colionisation and our role in most current world problems. But the amount of times that I’ve tried to talk about any issue within England and been shut down with the claim “well we’re not as bad as America”. That’s why the trump protests were so important. We are constantly looking to America to justify our own bigotry. We’ll call America out on their unjust wars, and ignore the fact our own army and government was supporting them. Listen, I like my country- I like that we have a rich history (not that I support it, but heck, everyone likes learning about the Roman Empire, doesn’t mean they think it’s a good thing), I like that we have countrysides and big diverse towns like London, I like that we love fish and chips and curry sauce, I love our old pubs and traditional pub food, I like that we have the NHS (though I dislike how it’s run), I like our sense of dry gallows humour, I like our film and tv industry, I love our history of theatre, I love our myths and legends. But god damn are we historically an awful country, and have we ever tried to make reparations? Our actions are still affecting other countries and ruining life. I don’t like the empire, I don’t like what the monarchy stands for, I don’t like our politicians that spew bigotry and hate, I don’t like our press which are like vultures, I don’t like the power the BBC has to cover-up actual sexual abuse and rape, I hate Katie Hopkins and that she has any platform to spew her hate, I hate Brexit and that it was founded on hate, I hate how we think our lives are more valuable than that of refuges or immigrants, I hate that we don’t think that we are directly or indirectly responsible for a lot of the refugees and asylum seekers that exist today, I hate that we have a system that is actively leading to the deaths of disabled people and that even when investigated by the UN and told to change because we were violating human rights we refused, I hate how we support America’s bigotry and then use their country as a shield when accused of our own bigotry. I hate that we, as a country, are incapable of accepting responsibility and making amends for our terrible actions. Incredibly well put. One of the tricky things is that every European country has their own fictional self image which it keeps repeating to convince itself it’s not a bigoted shithole. In the UK it’s very much focused on being better than the US, being civilized and polite and stylish, while.. ya know… having a lot of blood on its hands and doing all the same racist and bigoted shit everyone else is doing. In the Netherlands it’s focused on being ‘tolerant’ and gay-friendly and having semi-legal weed, while.. ya know… having a lot of blood on its hands and doing all the same racist and bigoted shit everyone else is doing.  In Germany it’s focused on having ‘learned from the second world war’ and being ‘better now, while . . ya know… having a lot of blood on its hands and doing all the same racist and bigoted shit everyone else is doing. And so on.. every European country considers itself either an underdog or a pioneer or a peak of civilization or small and quirky and of course they all consider themselves so much better than the US while doing all the same racist and bigoted shit everyone else is doing.  https://metro.co.uk/2016/10/27/man-severely-beaten-after-being-told-to-speak-f-english-speaks-out-6218523/ I still remember exactly how it felt to read about this man being brutally asssulted, HIT ON THE FACE WITH A PLANK OF WOOD, in London, a city I lived next to and visited all the time, simple because he was speaking my native language in public. I remember breaking down sobbing because of how many people in this country I love hate me so fucking much for being born somewhere else. IIRC, there was another similar incident on the underground this past April. So tell me more about the supposed lack of xenophobia and racism in Europe These sort of things are sometimes best articulated by people who did not grow up here and suddenly experience it all at once. Pretty much every exchange student of color that I’ve spoken to in the Netherlands has recounted an experience to me that went pretty much like this: Day 1: “Yay! The Netherlands! Country of tolerance and gay rights!” Day 2: “Huh, that person was really friendly to me and did like 15 micro-aggression, that was weird” Day 4: “Waaaaaiiitt… why does this happen constantly? Are people messing with me?  Am I imagining this? Do I just misunderstand their culture? The Netherlands can’t be this racist.” Day 10: “Oh my god, I’m not imagining it, people actually are this racist and they think they’re not! WTF” Day 12: “Holy crap, if I try to point out a micro-aggression people go from super friendly to hyper aggressive screaming in my face in about 5 seconds. And people I thought I could trust jump to their defense. What is this hellscape?” Day 13: “Everything I thought I knew about the Netherlands is wrong. This place is so racist.” Day 14: “Holy crap, is that a primary school teacher in black face?” A Muslim girl was drowned in a river by school bullies and found with bite marks and the police are trying to write it off as her forgetting she couldn’t swim and jumping in the river to cool down? A local fisherman saw it all but was written off as being drunk even though he wasn’t. The school of the girl and the bullies is trying to change it’s name so it will no longer be associated with the incident.The school was Broad Oak Sports College. The river was River Irwell in Bury, Greater Manchester. The girl was Shukri Abdi and she was 12 years old and her and her family recently moved from Somalia. She was the eldest of 5 and her mum is completely distraught, and her uncle has been trying to point out that it wasn’t just a “tragic accident”.Racism still exists in the most horrific forms in the UK.
America, Bad, and Children: There is no such thing as an American
 dream n Europe we try to be civil
 and have empathy
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LOL NOPE
Europe is racist as fuck. Europe has armed gaurds and high fences on its borders. Europe makes it illegal to rescue refugees at sea. Europe locks up refugee children. Europe has killer cops that shoot teenagers of color. Europe is full of fascist politicians nostalgically fantasizing about ethnic cleansing. Not a day goes by without attacks on Muslims. 
Fuck Europe.

Can confirm.


The problem with England (I can’t talk for the rest of Europe) is that our racism and our xenophobia and all our bigoted views manifest in a different way then America, and we use this to claim that it doesn’t exist, even when our country is built on it.
We are taught that the British empire was a good thing, and pretty much no one here knows anything about colionisation and our role in most current world problems.
But the amount of times that I’ve tried to talk about any issue within England and been shut down with the claim “well we’re not as bad as America”. 
That’s why the trump protests were so important. We are constantly looking to America to justify our own bigotry. We’ll call America out on their unjust wars, and ignore the fact our own army and government was supporting them.
Listen, I like my country- I like that we have a rich history (not that I support it, but heck, everyone likes learning about the Roman Empire, doesn’t mean they think it’s a good thing), I like that we have countrysides and big diverse towns like London, I like that we love fish and chips and curry sauce, I love our old pubs and traditional pub food, I like that we have the NHS (though I dislike how it’s run), I like our sense of dry gallows humour, I like our film and tv industry, I love our history of theatre, I love our myths and legends.
But god damn are we historically an awful country, and have we ever tried to make reparations? Our actions are still affecting other countries and ruining life. I don’t like the empire, I don’t like what the monarchy stands for, I don’t like our politicians that spew bigotry and hate, I don’t like our press which are like vultures, I don’t like the power the BBC has to cover-up actual sexual abuse and rape, I hate Katie Hopkins and that she has any platform to spew her hate, I hate Brexit and that it was founded on hate, I hate how we think our lives are more valuable than that of refuges or immigrants, I hate that we don’t think that we are directly or indirectly responsible for a lot of the refugees and asylum seekers that exist today, I hate that we have a system that is actively leading to the deaths of disabled people and that even when investigated by the UN and told to change because we were violating human rights we refused, I hate how we support America’s bigotry and then use their country as a shield when accused of our own bigotry. 
I hate that we, as a country, are incapable of accepting responsibility and making amends for our terrible actions. 

Incredibly well put. 
One of the tricky things is that every European country has their own fictional self image which it keeps repeating to convince itself it’s not a bigoted shithole.
In the UK it’s very much focused on being better than the US, being civilized and polite and stylish, while.. ya know… having a lot of blood on its hands and doing all the same racist and bigoted shit everyone else is doing. 
In the Netherlands it’s focused on being ‘tolerant’ and gay-friendly and having semi-legal weed, while.. ya know… 
having a lot of blood on its hands and doing all the same racist and bigoted shit everyone else is doing. 
In Germany it’s focused on having ‘learned from the second world war’ and being ‘better now, while .
. ya know… 



having a lot of blood on its hands and doing all the same racist and bigoted shit everyone else is doing. 
And so on.. every European country considers itself either an underdog or a pioneer or a peak of civilization or small and quirky and of course they all consider themselves so much better than the US while 
doing all the same racist and bigoted shit everyone else is doing. 


https://metro.co.uk/2016/10/27/man-severely-beaten-after-being-told-to-speak-f-english-speaks-out-6218523/
I still remember exactly how it felt to read about this man being brutally asssulted, HIT ON THE FACE WITH A PLANK OF WOOD, in London, a city I lived next to and visited all the time, simple because he was speaking my native language in public. 
I remember breaking down sobbing because of how many people in this country I love hate me so fucking much for being born somewhere else. 
IIRC, there was another similar incident on the underground this past April. 
So tell me more about the supposed lack of xenophobia and racism in Europe


These sort of things are sometimes best articulated by people who did not grow up here and suddenly experience it all at once. Pretty much every exchange student of color that I’ve spoken to in the Netherlands has recounted an experience to me

that went pretty much like this:
Day 1: “Yay! The Netherlands! Country of tolerance and gay rights!”
Day 2: “Huh, that person was really friendly to me and did like 15 micro-aggression, that was weird”
Day 4: “Waaaaaiiitt… why does this happen constantly? Are people messing with me?  Am I imagining this? Do I just misunderstand their culture? The Netherlands can’t be this racist.”
Day 10: “Oh my god, I’m not imagining it, people actually are this racist and they think they’re not! WTF”
Day 12: “Holy crap, if I try to point out a micro-aggression people go from super friendly to hyper aggressive screaming in my face in about 5 seconds. And people I thought I could trust jump to their defense. What is this hellscape?”
Day 13: “Everything I thought I knew about the Netherlands is wrong. This place is so racist.”
Day 14: “Holy crap, is that a primary school teacher in black face?” 

A Muslim girl was drowned in a river by school bullies and found with bite marks and the police are trying to write it off as her forgetting she couldn’t swim and jumping in the river to cool down? A local fisherman saw it all but was written off as being drunk even though he wasn’t. The school of the girl and the bullies is trying to change it’s name so it will no longer be associated with the incident.The school was Broad Oak Sports College. The river was River Irwell in Bury, Greater Manchester. The girl was Shukri Abdi and she was 12 years old and her and her family recently moved from Somalia. She was the eldest of 5 and her mum is completely distraught, and her uncle has been trying to point out that it wasn’t just a “tragic accident”.Racism still exists in the most horrific forms in the UK.

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Af, Being Alone, and America: MARIAH CAREY Not Another White Girl Trying To Sing Black' Daughter of Black father and White mother is hottest new artist By Lynn Norment ARIAH CAREY has a score to settle. Last summer, soon after her debut recording started racing up the record charts, she says a music critic referred to her as "another White girl trying to sing Black." Carey, indisputably the hottest new artist of the year, was infuriated A hit on Black and White charts, Mariah Carey is biggest new pop star since Whitney Houston 54 EB NY March 1991 Continued on Page 56 Denying reports that she is a White star imitating Blacks, talented singer-lyricist poses (left) at New York luncheon. "My father, Carey says, "is Black and Venezuelan, my mother is Irish. That makes me a combination of all those things." MARIAH CAREY Continued sing a certain way. I'm just trying to be Because she and her mother moved And now, here at a luncheon at Lolas me. And if people enjoy my music, often, she didn't have many close n Manhattan, she has the then they shouldn't care what I am, so friends or get involved in high school music programs. Instead, she spent af- straight and "tactfully" correct the Carey says she has always loved to ter-school hours writing songs and ing, and she gives credit and thanks to making demo tapes with longtime ac- perfect opportunity to set the record it shouldn't be an issue erring critic. "Im not a White girl trying to sing her mother for the "genes. Her quaintance Ben Margulies Black," the 20-year-old singer says in mother started giving her vocal lessons I 1987, right after finishing high an interview soon after. “My father is when she was four years old, and she school at age 17, she moved from her Black and Venezuelan, my mother is spent considerable time around her mother's home on Long Island into a Irish. That makes me a combination of mom's musically talented friends, one-bedroom apartment in Manhattan all those things. I am a human being, a soaking up the sounds of Billie Holiday with two other struggling performers During this exceptionally lean period, As a kid, she also spent a lot of time she slept on a mattress on the floor and Though barely out of her teens, Ma- listening to the radio and her sister's worked as a waitress, hat checker and riah Carey is indeed her own woman records. The soulful sounds of Gladys restaurant hostess to make ends meet She grew up in New York with her Knight, Aretha Franklin, Stevie Before and after work, she diligently mother, Patricia Carey, a vocal coach Wonder and Al Green were constant shopped her demo tapes from record and former singer with the New York companions. She sang along and stud- company to record company, but was person. What I am not is a White girl trying to sing Black. and Sarah Vaughan City Opera. Her parents divorced ed the lyrics and arrangements. By basically ignored when she was three, and Carey had an the time she was in high school, Carey ther, Alfred Roy Carey, an aeronautica which appear on her recordin a brother, 29, and a sister, 30.) back on-and-off" relationship with her fa was writing her own songs, several of up to Brenda K. Starr, and she was reg ularly doing studio session work. "We engineer in Washington, D.C. (She has Gospel music was also a great influ became good friends, and she helped ence. On occasion, she accompanied me out a lot," she says of Starr. "She Some people look at me and they her paternal grandmother, who is was always saying, Here's my friend see my light skin and my hair," she says Black, to a Baptist church. Even today, Mariah, here's her tape; she sings Eventually she began running a slender, neatly manicured she says, "I get up and go to bed listen- writes..。。.. hand through her long, semi-curly, ing to gospel music." Her favorites i It was Starr who took Carey to the honey-colored tresses for emphasis. "I clude the Clark Sisters, Shirley Caesar CBS party where she was discovered can't help the way I look, because it's and Edwin Hawkins, in addition to Ar me. I don't try to look a certain way or etha Franklin and Al Green 56 At t Sony Music Entertainment) president Continued on Page 58 EBONY March 1991 ways felt kind of different from every one else in my neighborhoods. I was a different person-ethnically. And sometimes that can be a problem. If you look a certain way everybody goes White girl, and I'd go, No, that's not Carey chose to express her inner- most feelings in her songs rather than become depressed and bitter. You re ally have to look inside yourself and find your own inner strength, and say, Im proud of what I am and who I am and I'm just going to be myself And for Carey, that translates into being a "respected" singer and song writer. But her phenomenal success has not inflated her head or her bank account, for she has yet to realize any monies from the album's success. The days when she and two struggling roommates stretched out a boxed mac aroni dinner for a week are still too Vivid, she says And, no, I don't let stuff like this go to my head, because success isn't a scale for talent," says the singer. I don't want to be a big star,' but I want to be respected as an artist. I'm de- Black singers, Carey lighted and very thankful [that people Influenced by Gladys Knight, Aretha Franklin and other started writing songs ike her work] in high school. She is a big gospel musio fan. "This is my love," she says emphat ically. "I want to sing for the rest of my MARIAH CAREY Continued more than two million copies. In At this point, she sings every chance Tommy Mottola a demo. In return, he ically, Carey wrote "Love Takes Time" she gets. In the studio. During promo gave her a Great-another demo for a second LP. But when Mottola tional stops. In the shower. Around her tape" smile, and Carey assumed it was another dead end. But on leaving the heard it, he insisted on stop g the one-bedroom Upper East Side Marn hattan apartment. To the boyfriend/ affair, Mottola popped the demo into but album, even though some record singer she's known since high school presses and adding the song to her de- his limo's tape deck. He liked what he ings were already in record stores heard so much that he immediately re- To her two Persian cats Carey says she was just as startled as Singing makes me incredibly turned to the party to find Carey. But anyone that Vision of Love" hit so big happy," she says. "Music makes me im she had already left because "it isn't hip-hop music, it isn't measurably h Having no address or telephone house music, and it isn't rap. But I am number did not deter Mottola from so glad and thankful," she says. That tracking her down. Ironically, another song really represents everything in record company had expressed mild interest in Carey, and a bit of a biddii war evolved my life. It is a song from the heart. ing Consider the lyrics: "Prayed through the nights/Felt so alone/Suf In December 1988, she signed with fered from alienation/Carried the CBS Columbia Records. Within a weight on my own/Had to be strong/So week she wrote Vision of Love" for I believed/And now I know I've suc- her debut album. In fact, she wrote ceeded/In finding the place I con- lyrics for all l songs on her self-titled ceived LP, and she even produced Vanish- the lissome artist with the clear, passio- inging "America The Beautiful" at the Just why would such a seemingly tender womanchild write these words Columbia went all-out to promote of despair and sing them with suclh deep passion? nate seven-octave voice, flexing a little "Well, just because you are young clout to get her the coveted task of doesn't mean that you haven't had a hard life," she says with a knowing lit 1989 NBA finals, where she was ex- tle smile. "It's been difficult for me, posed to 16 million people. Both "Vi moving around so much, having to sion of Love" and "Love Takes Time grow up by myself, basically on my have gone gold, and the album has sold own, my parents divorced. And I al EBONY March 1991 festivemomentspow:Mariah Carey, 1991
Af, Being Alone, and America: MARIAH CAREY
 Not Another
 White Girl
 Trying To
 Sing Black'
 Daughter of Black father
 and White mother is
 hottest new artist
 By Lynn Norment
 ARIAH CAREY has a score to settle. Last
 summer, soon after her debut recording
 started racing up the record charts, she says a
 music critic referred to her as "another White
 girl trying to sing Black."
 Carey, indisputably the hottest new artist of
 the year, was infuriated
 A hit on Black and White
 charts, Mariah Carey is
 biggest new pop star
 since Whitney Houston
 54
 EB NY March 1991
 Continued on Page 56

 Denying reports that she is a White star imitating Blacks, talented singer-lyricist poses (left) at New York luncheon. "My father, Carey says, "is Black
 and Venezuelan, my mother is Irish. That makes me a combination of all those things."
 MARIAH CAREY Continued
 sing a certain way. I'm just trying to be
 Because she and her mother moved
 And now, here at a luncheon at Lolas me. And if people enjoy my music, often, she didn't have many close
 n Manhattan, she has the then they shouldn't care what I am, so friends or get involved in high school
 music programs. Instead, she spent af-
 straight and "tactfully" correct the Carey says she has always loved to ter-school hours writing songs and
 ing, and she gives credit and thanks to making demo tapes with longtime ac-
 perfect opportunity to set the record
 it shouldn't be an issue
 erring critic.
 "Im not a White girl trying to sing her mother for the "genes. Her quaintance Ben Margulies
 Black," the 20-year-old singer says in mother started giving her vocal lessons I 1987, right after finishing high
 an interview soon after. “My father is when she was four years old, and she school at age 17, she moved from her
 Black and Venezuelan, my mother is spent considerable time around her mother's home on Long Island into a
 Irish. That makes me a combination of mom's musically talented friends, one-bedroom apartment in Manhattan
 all those things. I am a human being, a soaking up the sounds of Billie Holiday with two other struggling performers
 During this exceptionally lean period,
 As a kid, she also spent a lot of time she slept on a mattress on the floor and
 Though barely out of her teens, Ma- listening to the radio and her sister's worked as a waitress, hat checker and
 riah Carey is indeed her own woman records. The soulful sounds of Gladys restaurant hostess to make ends meet
 She grew up in New York with her Knight, Aretha Franklin, Stevie Before and after work, she diligently
 mother, Patricia Carey, a vocal coach Wonder and Al Green were constant shopped her demo tapes from record
 and former singer with the New York companions. She sang along and stud- company to record company, but was
 person. What I am not is a White girl
 trying to sing Black.
 and Sarah Vaughan
 City Opera. Her parents divorced ed the lyrics and arrangements. By basically ignored
 when she was three, and Carey had an the time she was in high school, Carey
 ther, Alfred Roy Carey, an aeronautica which appear on her recordin
 a brother, 29, and a sister, 30.)
 back
 on-and-off" relationship with her fa was writing her own songs, several of up to Brenda K. Starr, and she was reg
 ularly doing studio session work. "We
 engineer in Washington, D.C. (She has Gospel music was also a great influ became good friends, and she helped
 ence. On occasion, she accompanied me out a lot," she says of Starr. "She
 Some people look at me and they her paternal grandmother, who is was always saying, Here's my friend
 see my light skin and my hair," she says Black, to a Baptist church. Even today, Mariah, here's her tape; she sings
 Eventually she began
 running a slender, neatly manicured
 she says, "I get up and go to bed listen-
 writes..。。..
 hand through her long, semi-curly, ing to gospel music." Her favorites i It was Starr who took Carey to the
 honey-colored tresses for emphasis. "I clude the Clark Sisters, Shirley Caesar CBS party where she was discovered
 can't help the way I look, because it's and Edwin Hawkins, in addition to Ar
 me. I don't try to look a certain way or etha Franklin and Al Green
 56
 At t
 Sony Music Entertainment) president
 Continued on Page 58
 EBONY March 1991

 ways felt kind of different from every
 one else in my neighborhoods. I was a
 different person-ethnically. And
 sometimes that can be a problem. If
 you look a certain way everybody goes
 White girl, and I'd go, No, that's not
 Carey chose to express her inner-
 most feelings in her songs rather than
 become depressed and bitter. You re
 ally have to look inside yourself and
 find your own inner strength, and say,
 Im proud of what I am and who I am
 and I'm just going to be myself
 And for Carey, that translates into
 being a "respected" singer and song
 writer. But her phenomenal success
 has not inflated her head or her bank
 account, for she has yet to realize any
 monies from the album's success. The
 days when she and two struggling
 roommates stretched out a boxed mac
 aroni dinner for a week are still too
 Vivid, she says
 And, no, I don't let stuff like this go
 to my head, because success isn't a
 scale for talent," says the singer. I
 don't want to be a big star,' but I want
 to be respected as an artist. I'm de-
 Black singers, Carey lighted and very thankful [that people
 Influenced by Gladys
 Knight, Aretha
 Franklin and other
 started writing songs ike her work]
 in high school. She
 is a big gospel musio
 fan.
 "This is my love," she says emphat
 ically. "I want to sing for the rest of my
 MARIAH CAREY Continued
 more than two million copies. In At this point, she sings every chance
 Tommy Mottola a demo. In return, he ically, Carey wrote "Love Takes Time" she gets. In the studio. During promo
 gave her a Great-another demo for a second LP. But when Mottola tional stops. In the shower. Around her
 tape" smile, and Carey assumed it was
 another dead end. But on leaving the
 heard it, he insisted on stop
 g the one-bedroom Upper East Side Marn
 hattan apartment. To the boyfriend/
 affair, Mottola popped the demo into but album, even though some record singer she's known since high school
 presses and adding the song to her de-
 his limo's tape deck. He liked what he ings were already in record stores
 heard so much that he immediately re-
 To her two Persian cats
 Carey says she was just as startled as
 Singing makes me incredibly
 turned to the party to find Carey. But anyone that Vision of Love" hit so big happy," she says. "Music makes me im
 she had already left
 because "it isn't hip-hop music, it isn't measurably h
 Having no address or telephone house music, and it isn't rap. But I am
 number did not deter Mottola from so glad and thankful," she says. That
 tracking her down. Ironically, another song really represents everything in
 record company had expressed mild
 interest in Carey, and a bit of a biddii
 war evolved
 my life. It is a song from the heart.
 ing
 Consider the lyrics: "Prayed
 through the nights/Felt so alone/Suf
 In December 1988, she signed with fered from alienation/Carried the
 CBS Columbia Records. Within a weight on my own/Had to be strong/So
 week she wrote Vision of Love" for I believed/And now I know I've suc-
 her debut album. In fact, she wrote ceeded/In finding the place I con-
 lyrics for all l songs on her self-titled ceived
 LP, and she even produced Vanish-
 the lissome artist with the clear, passio-
 inging "America The Beautiful" at the
 Just why would such a seemingly
 tender womanchild write these words
 Columbia went all-out to promote of despair and sing them with suclh
 deep passion?
 nate seven-octave voice, flexing a little "Well, just because you are young
 clout to get her the coveted task of doesn't mean that you haven't had a
 hard life," she says with a knowing lit
 1989 NBA finals, where she was ex- tle smile. "It's been difficult for me,
 posed to 16 million people. Both "Vi moving around so much, having to
 sion of Love" and "Love Takes Time grow up by myself, basically on my
 have gone gold, and the album has sold own, my parents divorced. And I al
 EBONY March 1991
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America, Fall, and Family: September 11, 2001..... As I stood before this hallowed place.....17 years to the day when time stood still. When we as a Nation watched the Towers Fall, watched the Pentagon burn and the words "Let's Roll" showed a moment of true sacrifice aboard Flight 93 as REAL Americans prevented yet another hit on American soil. A day when we actually stood together as Americans in the face of despair.... I can't help but think of where we are now?! Hate groups running rampant, racial and political divide, calls for monument removals, calls for Presidential Assassinations from elected officials... Where did we go wrong? What happened to us as a Nation? In an age where we are more connected than ever before through technology....it seems we are further apart than we have ever been. So what are we gonna do America? It's true there is never any room in America for bigotry or hate......but neither is DIVISION! The truth is, We are either together or we're not... We are either all in on this idea that is America or we're out... I wonder what the people who on that day 17 years ago were united as one and were simply Americans would say to us now? Would they be proud of the steps we have taken since the day Americans stood together as one nation in the face of true opposition? Or would they not recognize who we are or what we have become? When I think of that day I don't think of terror. I don't think of weakness. I don't see black and I don't see white. I DO NOT see politics of who is right and who is wrong.... I think of a rallying cry for America and the awakening of what makes Americans truly great.... EACH OTHER!! WE are the problem....BUT we are also the answer! Think about it and NEVER FORGET! AMERICA.....Always! -Graham🇺🇸 neverforget 911 life love faith family
America, Fall, and Family: September 11, 2001..... As I stood before this hallowed place.....17 years to the day when time stood still. When we as a Nation watched the Towers Fall, watched the Pentagon burn and the words "Let's Roll" showed a moment of true sacrifice aboard Flight 93 as REAL Americans prevented yet another hit on American soil. A day when we actually stood together as Americans in the face of despair.... I can't help but think of where we are now?! Hate groups running rampant, racial and political divide, calls for monument removals, calls for Presidential Assassinations from elected officials... Where did we go wrong? What happened to us as a Nation? In an age where we are more connected than ever before through technology....it seems we are further apart than we have ever been. So what are we gonna do America? It's true there is never any room in America for bigotry or hate......but neither is DIVISION! The truth is, We are either together or we're not... We are either all in on this idea that is America or we're out... I wonder what the people who on that day 17 years ago were united as one and were simply Americans would say to us now? Would they be proud of the steps we have taken since the day Americans stood together as one nation in the face of true opposition? Or would they not recognize who we are or what we have become? When I think of that day I don't think of terror. I don't think of weakness. I don't see black and I don't see white. I DO NOT see politics of who is right and who is wrong.... I think of a rallying cry for America and the awakening of what makes Americans truly great.... EACH OTHER!! WE are the problem....BUT we are also the answer! Think about it and NEVER FORGET! AMERICA.....Always! -Graham🇺🇸 neverforget 911 life love faith family

September 11, 2001..... As I stood before this hallowed place.....17 years to the day when time stood still. When we as a Nation watched the...