Jennifer Dziura I've responded to this elsewhere around the Internet Men who offer to buy women drinks are often intending to purchase a lowering of the woman's defenses If you are a woman in a bar and a man offers to buy you a this cheerfully ask for something nonalcoholic while indicating get to know the guy At least 50% of men will be angry They weren't offering a gift or just trying to strike up conversation they wanted you to be drunk and to let down your guard In my own experience I have twice been offered a drink and instead suggested food -- in both cases very inexpensive food costing the same or less than a drink drink try willingness to a and in both -- cases the man responded angrily 2 minutes ago Like Reply Jennifer Dziura In one case I met a guy at a concertI liked him He suggested going to get a drink but I was starving and suggested the kebab place around the corner I can't remember who paid but I had a cheap bowl of soup and the guy pouted and I never saw him again The other time I had done standup in a bar and an older guy offered to buy me a drink I said I actually would love some popcorn which was sold **at the bar for $2** The man got angry and acted like I had cheated him somehow being greek-god-of-hair erwin-with-hairpins rainfelt cardozzza notyourexrotic source Whoa I didn’t realize that it was so deliberate I honestly thought it was unconscious Scary scary Gonna add on to thisFrom the other side of the bar I see this crap all the time Seriously I work at a high-density bar and let me tell you I have anywhere from 10-20 guys every night come up and tell me to “serve her a stronger drink I’m trying to get lucky tonight know what I mean?” usually accompanied with a wink and a gesture at a girl who in my experience is going to go from mildly buzzed to definitively hammered if I keep serving her Now I like to think I’m a responsible bartender so I usually tell guys like that to piss off and if I can try to tell the girl’s more sober friends that they need to keep an eye on her But everyone- just so you know most of the time when someone you don’t know is buying you a drink they’re NOT doing it out of a sense of cordiality they’re buying you a drink for the sole purpose of making you let your guard down So Tips for getting drinks- 1 ALWAYS GO TO THE BAR TO GET YOUR OWN DRINK DO NOT LET STRANGERS CARRY YOUR DRINKS This is an opportune time for dropping something into your cocktail and you’re none the wiser 2IF YOU ORDER SOMETHING NON-ALCOHOLIC I promise you the bartender doesn’t give two shits that you’re not drinking cocktails with your friends and often totally understands that you don’t want to let your guard down around strangers Usually you can just tell the bartender that you’d like something light and that’s a big clue to us that you’re uncomfortable with whomever you’re standing next to Again we see this all the time 3 If you’re in a position to where you feel uncomfortable not ordering alcohol Here’s a list of light liquors and mixers that won’t get you drunk and will still look like an actual cocktail X-rated + sprite = easy to drink sweet and 12% alcoholic content Not strong at all usually runs $6-$8 depending on your state Amaretto + sour= sweet not strong 26% Peach Schnapps+ ginger ale= tastes like mellow butterscotch 24% Melon liquor Midori in most bars + soda water = not overly sweet 21% Coffee liquor Kahlua +soda = not super sweet 20% Hope this helps someone out! Backing this up from years of bar tending Meme











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